As 81-year-old Marie said bluntly, “it is better to not marry than to marry the wrong person.
Both my husband and I were married once before, and it took that experience to learn this lesson." Virginia, 73, described rushing into marriage as one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make. "So there was this fellow I’d been going with, and we up and got married the week I turned 18.
But many cultures, not just Western ones, have biases against older woman-younger man pairings. believe that a relationship with an older woman makes a young man grow old or causes diseases, or even an early death, while it rejuvenates the woman and makes her more beautiful,” according to the demographer Barthelemy Kuate-Defo.
In actuality, according to the demographer Sven Drefahl’s analysis of data on nearly two million Danish couples, the opposite is the case.
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Since the late 1970s, so called “toyboy” relationships—defined as a woman married or cohabiting with a man five years or younger— have nearly tripled in the U. Why are older woman-younger man relationships on the increase, and why are people reluctant to accept them?
A female breadwinner subverts the stereotype that men are supposed to support women. A double standard around aging also plays a role, the sociologists Hernan Vera, Donna H. Older women are not usually viewed as sexual beings, but instead as sexless, maternal figures.
Looking back over their long experience, they believe some women are not careful enough.
Well, two children and 11 years later, we divorced.
It wasn’t a wise decision to marry him but it was an out for me at that time.
“All boys are initiated into sex by older women, specially those who they can inherit as wives,” writes the anthropologist Subhadra Mitra Channa.
Among the Bhil people in India and Pakistan, about half of wives are older than their husbands.