The answer might seem self-evident—our friend-in-the-making likes to garden, as do we, or shares our passion for NASCAR or Tex-Mex cooking. "The transition from acquaintanceship to friendship is typically characterized by an increase in both the breadth and depth of self-disclosure," asserts University of Winnipeg sociologist Beverley Fehr, author of .
"In the early stages of friendship, this tends to be a gradual, reciprocal process.
When someone embodies the rules—instinctually—their friendships are abundant indeed.
"Those who know what to say in response to another person's self-disclosure are more likely to develop satisfying friendships," she says.
Hefty helpings of emotional expressiveness and unconditional support are ingredients here, followed by acceptance, loyalty, and trust.
I was eager to tell her my problems, but she wasn't eager to tell me hers.
The necessary reciprocity was missing, so our acquaintanceship never tipped over into friendship.