I’ve talked my way out of a police station in **** (expired visa, nothing too terribly illicit), and watched a shaman do a smoke clearing (uninvited) in a bungalow I was occupying in ****. There’ve been *plenty* of humble moments too—so many that I’m now flushed just thinking about the first one or two that came to mind.
The stacks of guilt-inducing bedside reading include Dojo Wisdom for Writers, a few books from the library about nanotech, a couple of self-help titles and an embarrassing number of unread magazines—from New Scientist, New Yorker and Inc. And now that I’ve rambled, for all I know I could have deciphered your email address incorrectly (someone’s probably getting a big kick out of this if that’s the case), or you may have moved to Micronesia or gotten married—perhaps even twice by now—and forgotten to remove your ad from the Web. And I’d suggest she express some interest in the notee by commenting on specifics in his ad.”-Sandra Lamb“By not taking herself too seriously, this woman appears confident, which is attractive.
ou’ve spotted a profile online you’re smitten with. I’m afraid that if it turns out to not be true, I might wind up in the middle of the Lincoln Center Barnes & Noble curled up in a ball weeping and muttering something about attractive women and the lies they tell, covered in all of Nabokov’s work.
I hope it is—the little man who runs my brain has taken over and made me send you a note.
She might do better to show more enthusiasm and introduce some fresh, reader-focused topics.”-Sandra Lamb“This email lacks enthusiasm. The sender seems burnt out on dating and not willing even to add enticing tidbits about herself.”-Evan, 31, Exton, PA“I found this email refreshing; so many others seem like job cover letters...
Alison seems less frenetic, less self-obsessed, sweetly humble.”-Greg, 30, Potsdam, NY“I actually like that she offers very little information about herself—she keeps me guessing, and I like her playfulness with words.
It makes me look forward to ‘a little email back and forth.’”-Whit, 25, Portland, METhe verdict: While two online daters appreciated her brevity and casual way with words, our other panelists were left craving a warmer tone and less emphasis on why she’s not right for the profilee.
Saying you enjoy theater and wine is nothing to build a relationship on.
(Note: All of Brad’s intro emails follow a formula—he mentions something they have in common and ends with a question.)I noticed your profile and was intrigued. Is he looking to date or is he looking for a fellow entertainment critic?
Ask about her.”-Roman Griffen"Brad drops the conversational ball with the 'What did you think of it? He’s got to give her something to engage with."-Sandra Lamb“He starts off well because he volunteers info about himself, but I’d like him to add more before he asks another question.
I practice yoga and meditation pretty regularly, love to hike, cook, eat, travel, listen to live music, read and learn about people (despite a shy streak) and why we do what we do.
If I had to choose a few adjectives to describe myself, they d be curious, sensitive/intuitive, compassionate, independent but loyal, passionate, unconventional and, I’m told, courageous. )written a book, started two businesses (shut down one), mended a couple of important relationships with relatives.