After all, you are a good person and you did not deserve the pain that you are going through.
Sadly however, many choose to stay "in the angry" or "in the bitter" to the point that they are unable or unwilling to move forward from a place of pain to a place of peace.
For more information about Carole Brody Fleet and Widows Wear Stilettos, please visit on Facebook at Widows Wear Stilettos Follow on Twitter: @Widows Stilettos Earlier on Huff/Post50: Sometimes it feels like the foundation of your social life is so strong that you no longer find the opportunity to meet new and exciting people.
Throw a barbecue or party in which guests bring a friend that no one in the group knows.
Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date.
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And PS: Absolutely What do you do when it feels like everyone is trying to push you into dating and you feel like these same people are trying to instead push you over a cliff? As with a bruise, push on that spot in your heart from time to time.
How do you cope when it seems like everyone's very happiness depends on whether or not you permit them to fix you up on Saturday night? If it's still too painful to think about dating again, quit pushing yourself -- and don't allow others to push you either!
As hard as it may be, and while you certainly should not trust in a blindly haphazard fashion, you must have the ability to trust the people you introduce into your life, rather than judge them on any wrongdoings of those in your past. Otherwise known as Analysis Paralysis, these factors may include the fear of experiencing another loss by divorce or death, the fear of intimacy and vulnerability or the fear of being hurt again.Embrace the fact that you are not the same person that you were when you committed to the person no longer by your side and that you must take the time and patience with yourself to sufficiently recover from the trauma that you have endured.In other words, you must truly get to know the person that you are right now, this minute. You Realize That You Are "Not Guilty" When you have been functioning in life as one-half of a couple, you understandably become conditioned to thinking of yourself in those terms.That's fine of course -- but don't use the previous person as a "yardstick" against which you are measuring prospective dates.For example, it is unfair to start sentences with, because absolutely nobody "always" did something right or "never" did anything wrong. Are you content with yourself on your own without being one-half of a couple or dependent upon children to fill up your time?The resolution of lingering anger is an important step before the resumption of dating. The Ability to Leave the "Ghost of Relationship Past"...in the Past We all tend to have "selective amnesia" when it comes to our previous relationships; remembering only the good in the people no longer in our lives and the wonderful memories that we will have always.By all means, honor, keep and treasure the beautiful memories that you have; however, in order to both be fair to and enjoy someone new, you need to be able to put the Ghost of Relationship Past in its proper place. This means a life that is yours alone; a life that is individually gratifying in its own right. As a society, we are accustomed to either traveling in packs or with a spouse or significant other; however, you be content with your own company both within your four walls and in the outside world. I once dated a man who had not recovered from being broken up with in high school -- This gentleman made a conscious decision to be emotionally unavailable to anyone else because of one prior bad experience (in high school, no less).Do you have your own career, your own hobbies, your own pursuits, your own set of friends with whom you play sports, lunch, drink or dine? This contentment will enable you to make wise decisions in your dating choices and when you do choose to introduce someone new into your life, it will be for all of the right reasons. Your emotional availability will have everything to do with two things; the amount of time that you have spent recovering from your divorce or the death of your spouse and your willingness to make yourself emotionally available.It just may not be quite time for you to begin dating...know when the time to begin dating is right, if you simply listen to and trust in yourself -- and just as with a bruise, eventually, that tender spot in your heart does heal. Carole's latest book, has won the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award.