I have been dating my boyfriend for 3ish months, and its time for the holiday gift exchange. I have always been single during holidays ( go me) and this is a bit of foreign territory. I have been wondering what I want in terms of participation: If we're still together in December, will I be happier if he hangs out with my family on December 25 — or will it be less stressful for both of us if we simply agree to do the holidays apart?With all this in mind, I decided to give you some tips on how to make the holidays less romantically stressful. If you find yourself unattached in November, rejoice!Whirlwind romances were all the rage for me in 1997, but I'm older and wiser now ... The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. You need those three months to gather the data you need to decide if you want this person in your life for the next three months.Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. The Frisky: 10 best tips for dating online With all the disappointments that can come along with dating, I say why bother getting yourself in a tizzy about someone who could be a Russian spy?Or consider doing Christmas with one tribe and New Year's (or Thanksgiving) with the other.
I totally believe in love for myself and my friends, but what I believe in more is that it takes a really long time to get to know someone and it's a complicated process.When I first mentioned that I was going to be talking about tips to help daters survive the holidays, a bunch of readers said, "Avoid dating till January!" The holidays stress us out — there's so much to do, shopping sucks, it's cold, and any existing family tensions are exacerbated — so trying to get a new relationship started is the last thing you want to add to your to-do list, especially because there are so many holiday minefields that could blow the fragile little romance to smithereens. Don't feel compelled to bring some new guy to your office party.What's more, your relatives might be weird or annoying or simply not his speed. Not sure if you two are serious enough to buy each other gifts? Talk about it rather than tiptoeing around the issue.Your mother — whom everyone thinks you look so much like — may be aging very poorly, your father could be the kind of jackass no one would ever want to be in a restaurant with, and so on. Ask if he thinks exchanging gifts would be fun — and, of course, tell him how you feel.(The Frisky) -- First thing one morning I got a text from one of my friends, the kind I get all too often: "Met my future husband last night!" My response was my standard one: "Get back to me in three months." If I've learned one valuable thing from the dating whirligig I've been on for the last six years (give or take six months here or there), it's that you must wait at least three months before getting excited about the long-term possibilities of a new person.But the fact is I've already got the cold-weather festivities on the brain.And not just because the pumpkin butter I've been having on my morning toast is arousing Thanksgiving reveries, a la Proust's madeleine. Cup-of-Tea and I have already started discussing the holidays.Office parties can be stressful and awkward for even the most graceful employees — and adding a new beau to the mix will just increase the pressure on you.Plus, a bunch of people standing around talking shop while getting drunk and doing karaoke is no outsider's idea of fun. Think twice about casually inviting him to any family holiday party.