By the time they're 27, they could be sleeping with a sexy Chewbacca for all they care. He has his own friends and job and hobbies and schedule.
I.e., he won't be one of those lamewads who clings to your friend group and sits around the house eating Cheez-Its and waiting for you to come over and watch Netflix with him.
He will, however, snag limited tickets to a concert you’d otherwise forget about because you were too swamped at work.
All of that on TOP of telling you he loves you, in that charmingly timid way of his.15. You know him getting stuttery around you or getting so nervous that he actually falls UP a staircase (like my boyfriend did on our first date, true story) just means he is full of the warmest feelings for you. You’re with him because, deep down, you’re probably a little shy too.
You can both cuddle without the crushing pressure of filling every minuscule gap in a conversation. The bigger the accomplishment, the more your convo feels like 20 questions. And you’re constantly learning crazy huge chunks of information about him. He’ll also ask you things no one else ever thought to. Because he’s not the type to interject a lot (or, at all), bigger group settings make him seem like all he’s secretly roasting everyone in his head between every silent, polite nod. Because he’s so shy, the people who end up being his closest friends are usually the kinder, more patient people who won’t immediately write off that person standing awkwardly by themselves at a party.
Just when you think you know him, he’ll tell you he met Obama once and they talked for 10 whole minutes. This guy has logged a lot of hours intently listening to you, so don’t be too shocked when he throws you a philosophical curveball like “If you never reach [x long-term goal], do you think you could ever be truly happy? So yeah, one-on-one friend hangs are way more his wheelhouse. And you won’t feel like you need to be “on” when you first chill with them because, uh, have you met your own boyfriend? Loud men, in contrast, will irritate you more than they did before.
He doesn't give a shit if you haven't shaved in a few days. " Older guys probably have nieces or nephews or neighbor kids by this point and can interact with a child in a normal way. He doesn't try to get away with not using a condom.
Having seen more than two vulvas, he knows each is a beautiful and unique orchid and he won't hesitate to compliment yours.10. He holds it out from his body like he has stiff little Tyrannosaurus arms and the baby hangs there like, "Who the fuck handed me to this beer-breathed sociopath in cargo shorts?
Once you spend a lot of time with a man who never aggressively tries to out-joke other people or constantly offers cringey commentary during , you develop an even lower tolerance for the men who do.12. I will die on this hill, but I swear, there is a direct correlation between how rarely a guy talks about his sexual exploits and how skilled and open to your kinks he actually is.
You will get protective any time a guy implies your man’s quietness is weakness. His sex life is, as Ron Swanson would curtly say, “epic and private.”14.
But then you’ll remember that lots of men think lots of arbitrary crap is masculine, like overly-hoppy craft beer or wearing boat shoes with socks. He shows his love in way more practical, personal ways.
Sure, he won’t go on and on about how hot you are all the time (which isn’t even indicative of a great guy, tbh).