See your interactions as a reflection of your strengths, weaknesses and tendencies.
Be observant and cultivate self-awareness so that, through every relationship in your life, you can become a better version of yourself.
Yet as I began to engage in the balancing act between the world’s perspective of dating vs.
the “Christian” perspective of dating, I found myself empowered and my relationships enhanced.
Interacting with the opposite sex became this pressure-filled, awkward interaction that left me feeling confused, impatient and lacking control. Dating in wider society is often portrayed as a feel-good experience.
Why not see dating as just another means to this glorious end?If time brings things into fruition, why do Christians psyche themselves out into thinking that they have to know if that person is “The One” within 24 hours of meeting them? It’s no wonder she’s afraid to text him back, and he’s afraid to ask her out for coffee. Take it one date at a time, and trust God’s leading along the way.You don’t have to have it all figured out, or know that this is “The One,” as long as He’s guiding you every step of the way.We are called engage in relationships that are mutually edifying, encouraging and uplifting (1 Thessalonians ).We are asked to reserve sexual intimacy for the covenant relationship through marriage (Song of Solomon 8:4, Hebrews 13:4, 1 Thessalonians 4:3).But here’s the real reason Christians are bad at dating.And I can say this from personal experience: I was using dating as the scapegoat for my own fears and deep-seated insecurities.Here are a few things that helped me—and can maybe help you—reclaim this balanced perspective when it comes to dating: You can’t have a healthy relationship if you don’t first have a good handle on who you are.And if you don’t know yourself, you won’t know what you’re really looking for in a boyfriend or girlfriend. As hard as it is now to admit, I was that young Christian girl who jumped on the bandwagon of kissing dating goodbye—except, of course, for dating Jesus. Though I wish I could change my relationship history, my choices make sense in the context of my former belief system.I repressed my desire for dating and decided that courtship was the “holier” course of action for my life. Let’s be honest: The world of dating can be hard to navigate for a young Christian.