Rather than reciting your resume and list of perfections, try working phrases into your profile such as “I’m looking for someone who loves to keep fit” or “I’d love to meet someone with a passion for Geocaching.” But what characteristics should you rattle off in that 70 percent? Whereas men respond positively to kind, approachable, and attractive women who value fitness, women prefer evidence of bravery, courage, and risk-taking over kindness and altruism in potential mates.
This suggestion fits with an abundance of research, some conducted by our colleagues. It shouldn’t be surprising that past research recommends using an attractive profile picture.
Perhaps it's the flexibility in their gender and relationship statuses—for instance, you can list yourself as 'attached' as well as 'looking' at the same time.From choosing a profile picture (Do I want to look easygoing or hard to get? ) to summarizing your entire being in 100 words or less, it’s difficult to convey yourself in a marketable light without coming across as self-centered.If only there were a scientific formula to “up your online dating game.” In an article published in , researchers Khalid Khan and Sameer Chaudhry sought to create exactly that: “an evidence-based approach to an ancient pursuit”—namely, tried and true ways to convert an online dating profile into a face-to-face meeting.According to one online source, over 41 million Americans have tried to find a mate using an online dating service such as Match.com, e Harmony, or OKCupid. OKCupid alone claims to have over 1 million visitors every day.Anyone who has ever set up an online dating profile will tell you that it can be an exercise filled with uncertainty and anxiety. How should you make contact with potential dates...I fell in love with Maia Chance’s lovely heroines, Lola (a widowed society matron who has fallen on difficult financial times after her husband’s death) and Berta, her former cook, who becomes her business partner in a detective agency known as The Discreet Retrieval Agency. Unlike most college-aged kiddos, my sights were never set on studying abroad. Over the last several years, as an author, educator, and mentor of women, I have analyzed marriage from a multiplicity of angles—that is from material written by professional governmental, educational, and faith-based sociologists, scientists, and psychologists, as well as journalists, philosophers, and novelists. You’ve honed in on your masculine energy to help take charge but you find yourself burned out, tired, and out of balance.I never dabbled with the idea of taking time off to backpack around Europe or do a gap year in Asia to find my zen. This is occurring because your feminine and masculine energies…It’s a haunting refrain that is continually asked by women of every age —… You’ve joined e Harmony, set up your profile, and now you’re looking for pictures.You realize all of your recent pictures are selfies, with friends or even worse – with your ex.After searching through 3,938 potentially relevant studies, Khan and Chaudhry narrowed their review to 86 publications in psychology, sociology, and computer, behavioral, and neurocognitive sciences. To avoid coming off as self-absorbed, Khan and Chaudry suggest that you discuss not only yourself, but also what you’re looking for.From these they were able to extract themes, topics, and unexpected suggestions to create the ultimate dating profile recipe. They recommend a ratio—70 percent you, but 30 percent your hopeful date.