You may likely be angry at the circumstances surrounding your spouse's death.After all, you are a good person and you did not deserve the pain that you are going through.But contrary to what you might think, there are thousands of normal, healthy people online looking to meet someone great.” Elizabeth, 52, had been married for almost 25 years when her husband told her he’d met someone else.“The two things I remember very clearly were that his face had gone that purple colour it went when he was feeling defensive, and the other was that I was so unbelievably stupid,” she says. I thought I had my life all mapped out and arranged – I thought I knew what my future looked like.” Three years on, she says, she barely remembers anything about the months after her husband left.“It can feel like you have to start all over again, and the routes you probably used when you were younger might not be open to you anymore.It doesn’t help that most of your friends are likely to be coupled up, so it’s not uncommon to feel isolated and unsure where to start.You Have Reclaimed You During what may very well be the worst or most challenging time in your life is recover from the divorce from or death of your spouse and you cannot accomplish that kind of recovery in hurry-up fashion.Embrace the fact that you are not the same person that you were when you committed to the person no longer by your side and that you must take the time and patience with yourself to sufficiently recover from the trauma that you have endured.
For example, you are likely to be angry with an ex-spouse who was abusive or unfaithful.
in the Past We all tend to have "selective amnesia" when it comes to our previous relationships; remembering only the good in the people no longer in our lives and the wonderful memories that we will have always.
That's fine of course -- but don't use the previous person as a "yardstick" against which you are measuring prospective dates.
“You can get to know each other a little bit by emailing one another before deciding whether you’d like to meet up,” she says.
“So long as you are careful about meeting in a public place, this can be a fun and relaxed way to meet new people.