Giving makes them feel out of control and threatened as they worry that the reason for their shame will be revealed.
There must be a state of equivalence that assures harmony in our loving relationships. Srini Pillay, author of Debunking Myths of the Mind, wrote an article for Psychology Today stating that “Selfish lovers are often hiding something they are very ashamed of as well.
When you point this out you’re told you’re being “selfish” for wanting him/her to pay attention.5.
He/she gives only when he/she expects to get something back in return.
So how can you tell earlier on that you may be falling for a selfish man or woman? He/she mostly talks about him/herself – what he/she likes, needs and wants in a partner, in a relationship, in life etc.
What you like, need and want doesn’t seem to matter.2.