Ann sent Conor a text message saying, "I'm starting to think it's a bad idea if we live together."Other items show that Conor was trying to pull himself and the relationship together. How did a young man like you — who had every advantage — end up shooting his fiancee?On a piece of paper, he had written the following:"I want to revolutionize the world.""I want to be self-sufficient.""I want to marry Ann Grosmaire."Conor called me about p.m. A recorded voice on the other end of the line informed me that I would have to press 5 to accept a call from an inmate at the Leon County Jail. ""Honestly, it was a perfect storm of bad decisions, and I lost it," Conor said.
Ann loved working behind the scenes in theater, but ventured into acting as a senior and was named Leon High's Thespian of the Year.They know Conor's actions hurt the Tallahassee community. A few days later, while sitting in the Mc Brides' living room, Michael Mc Bride read Conor's words:"Do not be afraid to seek help, either side of the relationship. The Taylor/Madison County Refuge House hot line is 850-584-8804.February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention month.Instead, he shot Ann," his mother, Julie Mc Bride, said.To many who knew Ann and Conor, they seemed like steady, young adults, and in many ways they were.A few weeks later, he was listed as a new member of the National Honor Society. Text messages and handwritten notes recovered after the shooting point to an unhealthy and, at times perhaps, abusive relationship.It seems the two were trying to keep their relationship together, that they were overly dependent on each other and that their problems exceeded their maturity.In this 2010 photo North Plainfield High School drama students Luis Salazar, right, as "C.J.," and Melissa Torres, as "Angela," are shown during a rehearsal of "Don't U Luv Me," a play that explores the concept of violence in teen dating at North Plainfield High School in North Plainfield, N. More than a third of teen guys and girls say they've been physically, emotionally or sexually abused in their dating relationships, according to new, unpublished data from a nationwide survey.I love you, Conor."The item that raises the most questions is a list Ann apparently made for Conor, outlining her expectations.In brightly colored markers, and using hearts for bullet points, she wrote "The List" on a sheet of notebook paper and spelled out her desires."No aggressive cursing, no negative comments on physical appearance, no negative comments on relationship, no falling asleep on the phone while talking to me, no running away from our problems."At the bottom under the heading "Never Again," Ann wrote the following: "Physical (sic) harm me, look at porn, cheat, try ending us due to anger, yell at me, keep me in the dark."In the days before Ann was shot, tension was growing in the couple's relationship. Calls from the jail are limited to 15 minutes, so I immediately started the interview by asking the question I thought my readers would ask, if given the opportunity."How did this happen?