What this means is, with not much thought, you can fairly easily sculpt your profile to find, for example, a gay eugenics pipe smoker.The profusion of kinky folk can get fairly terrifying at times, especially if, like me, your sexual appetites are fairly tame.Think about listing the song you like to sing in the shower, talk about a proud moment in your life, and allow your date to know what their life could be like if they had the opportunity to spend it with you.3.Avoid clichés and emoticons: How many times have you seen a profile that says he’s looking for a drama-free woman or that she likes romantic beach walks, traveling, and wants a financially secure man?Be specific: General profiles all tend to blend together and can be viewed as boring or too typical.Make your profile shine by being specific about what you’re looking for.
The other reason all these people are on OKC is, of course, that the site is free to join. Well, yes, in my experience of online dating, free is very definitely bad.
And it's here where you encounter the second major drawback. Free sites are packed full with spammers and scammers and people looking for casual sex.
Even if that latter category sounds appealing to you, remember that people blithely (or desperately) looking for a squeeze between the sheets can put more earnest daters off.
One woman sent me an email with a five point list of things she wanted to do to me.
Long story short, it involved going to her sex dungeon and being locked in a cage while she choked me and her husband relieved himself on me.