If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.
Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.
It is not your place to discipline an unruly child either, check his/her mom on that, and if it gets too much – call it a day and leave.
Having to play daddy when you’re simply dating a woman is not fair to you either, so don’t ever let them lay that on you as a responsibility.
However, when you date someone younger, everyone has a damn opinion, mostly about what a bad idea your decision to engage in a consensual adult relationship is.
You can date someone the exact same age as you are, marry them, have children with them and then wind up getting a divorce because after years and years together you’ve finally allowed yourself to realize you want different things.
You do not what to appear as if you are talking the kid up in order to score panty points with his/her momma.
It’s very obvious when we do this and kids read that stuff immediately.
Here’s what you do: treat the kid like another adult and engage in conversation and bonding the way you would if you were stuck in a house with random guy or girl.
You have to cater to both on some level, especially if the child is a female herself.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation.