Mistake Three: YOU DID NOT CAST DOWN YOUR BUCKET WHERE YOU WEREMeanwhile, you have been wining, dining, and romancing American women who are well-educated, well-read, well-mannered, and reliable until the marriage bug hit you.You decide to go home to marry Isuochi girl your family recommends.I define security as refuse, sanctuary, defense, protection, precaution, safety. The man was in his late fifties or early sixties, as dark and greasy as la raccoon laid back as a stretcher, and couldn't be considered handsome by any standards imaginable.
It is funny because your parents have warned you against marrying one of those "Europeans" because they can prevent you from coming back to your people or compel you to remain away for life. So-and-So's son has taken his brother and sister to Europe, and why haven't you taken anyone from this family?Why are many Nigerian households broken up by divorces or end up with death of one spouse or both? You left Nigeria when you were in your early or middle thirties, had no real girlfriend, and indecisive about marriage.This paper discusses 5 mistakes the Nigerian men seeking wives or are married make that are the proximal causes of the tragic end of their marriages. Now, at 45 years, you suddenly decide to marry, and you want a girl half your age.Additionally, you think African girls in the United States have all gone bad, rotten, too exposed, too independent.My friend Frank 's idea of marrying a "homegirl" started after he was enraged at being asked by several college female students he had dated: "Frank, let's do oral sex." His answer was "Why did you ask that?Let me tell you why I think this: 1) One month in is a bit soon to be talking about getting married.Granted, some people know right away if they are going to marry someone, but clearly the feelings were one way.I will add that Nigerian husbands are some of the nicest set of people, and I know quite a number of them; good men, upright men, and it is not their fault that the women left. You know you couldn't have her in Nigeria when you were in your twenties because you weren't an old sugar daddy You weren't Sonny Ade, Fela Ramson Kuti, nephew of the oil minister, the son of an Nnewi transporter Ekele Dilichukwu, or directly in line to inherit the property of an importer of building materials from a village of Osumenyi in Anambra State. I will wager that most Nigerian men in the United States didn't realize they were racing against the clock when they waited too late to marry. As I was roaming Alaba Market in Lagos one summer, I stumbled over what I thought was the answer.Mistake Two: YOU ARE NAÏVE WHEN IT COMES TO LOVEIn Nigeria, most Nigerian women would marry anyone who could provide a measure of security. Here was an unusual Igboman named Simon Onyekwere (not real name) who was married to a lady medical doctor.Nigerian men are well liked in foreign lands because they are thought to be the cream of the African crop.Nigerian men are egalitarian, open, unrestricted, and uncensored.