A Gray Area Representatives from the State University of New York at Purchase, Marymount College, Sarah Lawrence College, Pace University, Westchester Community College, Iona College and Mercy College also said that such relationships were discouraged by the administration though not specifically addressed in college policies.
But administrators, professors and students alike say that the issue of faculty-student dating is a complex one.
You were no longer the young man's teacher, and he had reached the age of consent, which varies state by state in the U. That's not to say that two mature, committed people could not resolve those tensions and confusion; perhaps they could. But to attempt to nurture this fleeting tryst into a mature relationship would be difficult, risky and probably doomed.
So I suggest that, having broken it off, you henceforth avoid all contact with the young man.
Instances where a professor demands sexual favors for a grade or recommendation clearly constitute sexual harassment, for which there are policies and sanctions already established.
But many administrators refer to faculty-student dating as "a gray area," where individual maturity levels, professor's marital status and questions of direct supervision play a role.
What you are really trying to do is smoke out the professor who every semester picks up a student to have a relationship with -- the habitual offender," she said.
It is precisely because this type of relationship is apparently consensual that regulation becomes problematic.
Kolodzinski, dean of students on the Pleasantville-Briarcliff campus of Pace University.
Some say that the unequal power in a relationship between a student and a faculty member -- particularly one who is in a position to grade or make recommendations about the student he or she is dating -- is inherently exploitative.
Others cite happy marriages of professors to their former students.
Moreover, I suggest you contact a lawyer, explain what has happened and get some good advice.
Someone could tell someone who could tell someone's parents and next thing you know charges, while baseless, could be filed.